Many female managers, executives and business owners constantly struggle to find and implement a system that gives them the space — both physical and mental — to really perform at their best.
You know the feeling. You are always in a rush, afraid of forgetting something important, feeling guilty and resentful because you’ve been told that you’re not “communicating effectively” or “not being strategic enough”. Stress related conditions such as heartburn, insomnia, weight gain, hair loss and lack of libido are common, and quickly lead to low self-esteem.
Common panaceas such as lots of coffee, a wine or three after work or a punishing session at the gym can, when used as part of your daily survival strategy, actually worsen the condition by creating toxic by-products in the body, piling on even more stress, reducing your patience, energy and tolerance — and killing any real fun and enjoyment in your work and life.
Even worse, an insidious voice inside begins to chant its mantra: “not enough, not enough, not enough”. It is a voice most women choose to ignore; it sounds unpleasant, because the message we hear is “you’re not good enough, you’re not doing enough”.
But fighting to squeeze additional time out of the day to “achieve” more is not the answer.
In fact, this voice is really your own biological, energetic and intuitive wisdom, saying
“Hey! There’s not enough resource here; we need to stop, add, remove or change something”.
By using compassionate scheduling and creating a holistic space from which to work, you can bring the joy, creativity and fun back into your whole life.
Compassion is defined as “kindness, caring, and a willingness to help others”. When you have compassion, you’re putting yourself in someone else’s shoes and really feeling for them, without losing yourself. You feel for them without disempowering them.
If you begin by being compassionate towards your own body and energy system as the most crucial element in the whole business, what might change in your current schedule? What conversations would you need to have, from a compassionate standpoint, to bring about these new agreements?
A schedule is a tool, not a master. It is there to provide a structure, perhaps even a routine if you wish for one, as well as to keep a record of agreements made by the parties involved about where and when certain things will take place. Thus, shared calendars can be helpful. You are in charge of the structure and the agreements that you decide to make or change.
If you can take care of your energy, then the way you approach your schedule will be by caring for yourself, for the business, and for others. The changes in the quality of your decision making and how you have conversations will produce a whole new level of engagement. You are then connecting with the energy of others in a most productive way. ❐

Mindset essentials

Your key priorities

  1. Exquisite self-care is your #1 priority. Commit to replenishing your resources daily. Breathe deeply.
    2 .High-value activity gets scheduled first. This includes annual holidays and other nourishing breaks, regular bodywork and exercise that is pleasurable and makes you feel wonderful.
  2. Regular business strategy and planning sessions take up the next chunks.
  3. Declutter your load — schedule the conversations you need to have, to delegate, reschedule or cancel what is not important.
  4. Choose what parts of your calendar are open for business and share your decisions with people who care and who will help you stay accountable to your highest good.
  5. Celebrate milestones often, in ways large and small.
    If your calendar doesn’t look full enough, embrace the space – it is full of potential!